One of the things I have learned, in my last couple of years as a single man is that it’s important to love without attachment. This is not to say that I am ready to bolt right out the door. No, I am about loving fully without being attached to a result (like sex, relationship, or my “list”).

By giving up that there has to be some kind of outcome, I am able to be fully here in the now with the woman I am dating. I am able to just “be on a date” without focusing on my strategies for getting what I want.

But then there is the loving part. I find that part of the reason men are confronted by the word “love” is that they have been burned loving in the past. In the ongoing process of letting go of that pain from previous rejections, I can find myself loving fully, even someone I’ve just met.  Not crazy stalker love, but a calm, peaceful, human love.

I’m not attached to it going anywhere other than right here, anyway.

Tags: Dating Without Drama

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